Black men base much of their self-esteem on their performance. But their deeper selves -- their motivations, self-image, and fears -- are often hidden in a private world that they can't, or won't, share with their partners. Now, in How to Love a Black Man, noted psychotherapist and minister Dr. Ronn Elmore draws upon his years of experience in counseling to help women develop a mutually satisfying relationship with the Black men in their lives. Dr. Elmore says a loud NO to both the frustrated, cynical belief that Black men just don't know how to give or receive love and the ridiculous, one-sided notion that if women only learned more ways to pamper them and nurse their fragile egos, the love would work. The truth is that both partners can and must strive together to cultivate a loving relationship that serves them both well. To achieve this, How to Love a Black Man empowers readers with seventy-three inspiring Satisfaction Actions, as well as dozens of real-life examples, that show how to:
- Keep things real -- help him express his true feelings and better express your own
- Stick to your principles -- yet make loving, productive compromises
- Give each other vital encouragement through life's inevitable hard times
- Stop running from fights and resolve the conflicts they raise once and for all
- Share and support his dreams -- without losing sight of your own.
How to Love a Black Man, written in the highly prescriptive, real-life style that made books like How to Marry the Man of Your Choice into bestsellers, is the book that finally bridges the gap between what Black men have been thinking and what women have been feeling all along. And as it encourages understanding, it respects and celebrates the exciting differences between Black men and the phenomenal women who love them.
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