Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage
America's Love Lab Experts Share Their Strategies for Strengthening Your Relationship
Introduction
From Predicting Divorce to Preventing It: An Introductory Message from John and Julie Gottman
It’s been more than a decade since John and his colleagues at the University of Washington (UW) first announced their discovery: Through the power of careful observation and mathematical analysis, the team had learned to predict with more than 90 percent accuracy whether a married couple would stay together or eventually divorce. This discovery captured the imagination of many. If research psychologists could now pinpoint specific behaviors that lead to divorce, then perhaps people in troubled relationships could change those behaviors and save their marriages.But as any weatherman can tell you, the ability to predict trouble is not the same as the ability to prevent it. It’s one thing to detect a storm brewing on radar; it’s quite another to make those storm clouds disappear.
And yet that’s the kind of work we at the Gottman Institute have been doing. Si ...
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