"In this refreshingly honest book, the prospective parent is given not only the realistic view of what could happen, but also real-life examples and a challenge to prepare for when that day eventually happens in one's own home. When I was doing foster care I could have really used Rosemary's down-to-earth approach. I would have not only read this book through - I would have kept it on my reference shelf for when things got difficult." Margie Queen, Teacher and Former Foster Parent of Hard-to-Place Kids "I have read every word, savoring it page-by-page. It is wonderful. The scheme is perfect - some theoretical wisdom, then the story, and then thought provoking questions for the actual or prospective foster or adoptive parent. The stories are often grim, sometimes heart-lifting, and there are funny moments, too. It is an amazing document - a hopeful sign in a too frequently discouraging world." Martha Whitmore Hickman, author of Healing After Loss